It's been a long week and you needed to let loose, hang out with the girls and with that said and done you also needed your dose of TLC and have your back blown out. So what do you do?!?! Decisions! Decisions! There isn't a prospective male in the picture because you've been soo busy you haven't had time to entertain those trying to get in your life nevermind had the time to actively date. It's crunch time, everyone is splitting ways and you need to think fast. You do what your use to and most comfortable with, call the ex.
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Ahh resorting back to the ex is never really a good idea, EVER! A few reasons for this:
1. You haven't let go
Although you've told yourself every 30 mins, to an hour that you no longer want him and your over it, chances are you probably aren't.
2. He's not over it
As stuborn as some men can be, chances that he hasn't gotten over it and this attempt to "get yours" is only going to mislead him into false hope of there being a chance in hell that you're giving him a second shot of that two car garage, picket white fence dream you two once shared.
Then theres the worst of it all....
3. He Doesn't Know His Position
Guess what guys, THIS APPLIES TO YOU TOO! Reality check, what was once yours is no longer yours any longer. Many ex boyfriends who accept the roles and responsibilities of being the late night creep post break up GET TOO COMFORTABLE. Yes, we share an umpteenth amoung of years/months/weeks/days together but one thing you need to understand about women (especially the modern women) if you're not THE man in her life those things you once had the grounds to do, you can no longer do.
Allow me to elaborate...
1. If she drops the "I have to work in the morning" or gives you some reason that she's up and out in the AM please take that as your hint to take your butt home after your service to womanhood has been served. Most women as selfish minded as we can be will still ACT selfless but believe she'll be calling her friend on her lunch break the next day like "GIRL, HE JUST WOULDN'T LEAVE".
2. If for any reason she allows you to stay, morning lovin' or staying behind is not an option. If she called you at the wee hours of the morning after a long night of whining/fist pumping/jumping etc. chances are the 4 shots of tequila have her recovering the next day. So, be sure to get it all out and impress her the night before. Also, your new role as the go-to-guy does not come with perks or benefits. Now I know you're in a comfortable enviornment, hell she may have forgotten to throw out your toothbrush but by no means does that allow you to ASSUME she'll leave you behind to lock up as she starts her day. If she's getting up at the crack of dawn for work, school, whatever...guess what buddy...it's your time to go!
Hopefully these guidelines will help you avoid akward situations like her asking you what your plans are at 5am after you've exhausted yourself. Or better yet save you from being unknowingly humiliated on a 4 way chat with her sister, cousin and girls.
